To Those Who Mourn
BY C.W. LEADBEATER
Friend: You have
lost by death one whom you loved dearly, one who
perhaps was all the world to you; and so to you
that world seems empty, and life no longer worth
the living. You feel that joy has left you
forever, that existence can be for you henceforth
nothing but hopeless sadness, naught but one
aching longing for "the touch of a vanished hand
and the sound of a voice that is still." You are
thinking chiefly of yourself and your intolerable
loss; but there is also another sorrow. Your grief
is aggravated by your uncertainty as to the
present condition of your beloved; you feel that
he has gone, you know not where. You hope
earnestly that all is well with him, but when you
look upward all is void; when you cry there is no
answer. And so despair and doubt overwhelm you,
and make a cloud that hides from you the sun that
never sets.
Your feeling is
most natural; I, who write, understand it
perfectly, and my heart is full of sympathy for
all those who are afflicted as you are. But I hope
that I can do more than sympathize: I hope that I
can bring you help and relief. Such help and
relief have come to thousands who were in your sad
case. Why should they not come to you also?
You say: "How can
there be relief or hope for me?"
There is the hope
of relief for you because your sorrow is founded
in misapprehension; you are grieving for something
which has not really happened. When you understand
the facts you will cease to grieve.
You answer: "My
loss is a fact. How can you help me, unless indeed
you give me back my dead?"
I understand your
feeling perfectly; yet bear with me for a while,
and try to grasp three main propositions, which I
am about to put before you, at first merely as
broad statement, and then in convincing detail:
- Your loss is
only an apparent fact, apparent from your point
of view. I want to bring you to another
viewpoint. Your suffering is the result of a
great delusion, of ignorance of Nature's law;
let me help you on the road towards knowledge by
explaining a few simple truths which you can
study further at your leisure.
- You need be
under no uneasiness or uncertainty with regard
to the condition of your loved one, for the life
after death is no longer a mystery. The world
beyond the grave exists under the same natural
laws as this which we know, and has been
explored and examined with scientific accuracy.
- You must not
mourn, for your mourning does harm to your loved
one. If you can once open your mind to the
truth, you will mourn no more.
You may perhaps
feel that these are only assertions; but let me
ask you on what grounds you hold your present
belief, whatever it may be. You think you hold it
because some Church teaches it, or because it is
supposed to be founded upon what is written in
some holy book; or because it is the general
belief of those around you, the accepted opinion
of your time. But if you will try to clear your
mind from preconceptions, you will see that this
opinion also rests merely upon assertion for the
Churches teach different views, and the words of
the holy book may be and have been variously
interpreted. The accepted view of your time is not
based upon any definite knowledge; it is mere
hearsay. These matters which affect us so nearly
and so deeply are too important to be left to mere
supposition or vague belief; they demand the
certainty of scientific investigation and
tabulation. Such investigation has been
undertaken, such tabulation has been accomplished;
and it is the result of these which I wish to put
before you. I ask no blind credence; I state what
I myself know to be facts, and I invite you to
examine them.
Let us consider
these propositions one by one. To make the subject
clear to you I must tell you a little more about
the constitution of man than is generally know to
those who have made no special study of the
matter. You have heard it said vaguely that man
possesses an immortal something called a soul,
which is supposed to survive the death of the
body. I want you to cast aside that vagueness and
to understand that, even if it were true, it is an
understatement of the facts. Do not say: : "I hope
that I have a soul," but " I know that I am a
soul." For that is the real truth; man is a soul."
and has a body. The body is not the man; it is
only the clothing of the man. What you call death
is the laying aside of a worn-out garment, and it
is no more the end of the man than it is the end
of you when you remove your overcoat. Therefore
you have not lost your friend; you have only lost
sight of the cloak in which you were accustomed to
see him. The cloak is gone, but the man who wore
it is not; surely it is the man that you love and
not the garment.
Before you can
understand your friend's condition you must
understand your own. Try to grasp the fact that
you are an immortal being, immortal because you
are divine in essence, because you are a spark
from God's own Fire; that you lived for ages
before you put on this vesture that you call a
body, and that you will live for ages after it has
crumbled into dust. "God made man to be an image
of His own eternity." This is not a guess or a
pious belief; it is a definite scientific fact,
capable of proof, as you may see from the
literature on the subject if you will take the
trouble to read. * [A list of books will be found
at the end of the pamphlet]
What you have
been thinking of as your life is in truth only one
day of your life as a soul, and the same is true
of your beloved; therefore he is not dead. It is
only his body that is cast aside.
Yet you must not
therefore think of him as a mere bodiless breath,
as in any way less himself than he was before. As
St Paul said long ago: "There is a natural body,
and there is a spiritual body." People
misunderstand that remark, because they think of
these bodies as successive, and do not realize
that we, all of us, possess both of them even now.
You, as you read this, have both a "natural" or
physical body, which you cannot see, that which
St. Paul called the "spiritual." And when you lay
aside the physical you still retain that other
finer vehicle; you are clothed in your "spiritual
body." If we symbolize the physical body as an
overcoat or cloak, we may think of this spiritual
body as the ordinary house-coat which the man
wears underneath that outer garment.
If that idea is
by this time clear to you, let us advance another
step. It is not only at what you call death that
you doff that overcoat of dense matter; every
night when you go to sleep you slip it off for
awhile, and roam about the world in your spiritual
body, invisible as far as this dense world is
concerned, but clearly visible to those friends
who happen to be using their spiritual bodies at
the same time. For each body sees only that which
is on its own level; your physical body sees only
other physical bodies. When you resume your
overcoat that is to say, when you come back to
your denser body, it occasionally happens that you
have some recollection, although usually a
considerably distorted one of what you have seen
when you were away elsewhere; and then you call it
a vivid dream. Sleep, then, may be described as a
kind of temporary death, the difference being that
you do not withdraw yourself so entirely from your
overcoat as to be unable to resume it. It follows
that when you sleep, you enter the same condition
as that into which your beloved has passed. What
that condition is I will now proceed to explain.
Many theories
have been current as to the life after death, most
of them based upon misunderstandings of ancient
scriptures. At one time the horrible dogma of what
was called everlasting punishment was almost
universally accepted in Europe, though none but
the hopelessly ignorant believe it now. It was
based upon a mistranslation of certain words
attributed to Christ, and it was maintained by the
mediaeval monks as a convenient bogey with which
to frighten the ignorant masses into well-doing.
As the world advanced in civilization, men began
to see that such a tenet was not only blasphemous
but ridiculous. Modern religionists have therefore
replaced it by somewhat saner suggestions; but
they are usually quite vague and far from the
simplicity of the truth. All the Churches have
complicated their doctrines because they insisted
upon starting with an absurd and unfounded dogma
of a cruel and angry Deity who wished to injure
His people. They import this dreadful doctrine
from primitive Judaism, instead of accepting the
teaching of the Christ that God is a loving
Father. People who have grasped the fundamental
fact that God is Love, and that His universe is
governed by wise eternal laws have begun to
realize that those laws must be obeyed in the
world beyond the grave just as much as in this.
But even yet beliefs are vague. We are told of a
faraway heaven, of a day of judgment in the remote
future, but little information is given us as to
what happens here and now. Those who teach do not
even pretend to have any personal experience of
after-death conditions. They tell us not what they
themselves know, but only what they have heard
from others. How can that satisfy us?
The truth is that
the day of blind belief is past; the era of
scientific knowledge is with us, and we can no
longer accept ideas unsustained by reason and
common sense. There is no reason why scientific
methods should not be applied to the elucidation
of problems which in earlier days were left
entirely to religion; indeed, such methods have
been applied by The Theosophical Society and the
Society of Psychical Research; and it is the
result of these investigations, made in a
scientific spirit, that I wish to place before you
now.
We are spirits,
but we live in a material world, a world, however,
which is only partially known to us. All the
information that we have about it comes to us
through our senses; but these senses are seriously
imperfect. Solid objects we can see; we can
usually see liquids, unless they are perfectly
clear; but gases are in most cases invisible to
us. Research shows that there are other kinds of
matter far finer than the rarest of gases; but to
these our physical senses do not respond, and so
we can gain no information with regard to them by
physical means.
Nevertheless, we
can come into touch with them; we can investigate
them, but we can do it only by means of that
"Spiritual body'' to which reference has been
made, for that has its senses just as this one
has. Most men have not yet learned how to use
them, but this is a power which can be acquired by
man. We know that it can be, because it has been
so acquired; and those who have gained it find
themselves able to see much which is hidden from
the view of the ordinary man. They learn that this
world of ours is far more wonderful than we have
ever supposed; that though men have been living in
it for thousands of years, most of them have
remained blankly ignorant of all the higher and
more beautiful parts of its life. The line of
research to which I am referring has already
yielded many marvelous results, and is opening
before us new vistas every day. This information
may be gleaned from Theosophical literature, but
we are here concerned with only one part of it,
with the new knowledge that it puts before us as
to the life beyond what we call death, and the
condition of those who are enjoying it.
The first thing
that we learn is that death is not the end of
life, as we have ignorantly assumed, but is only a
step from one stage of life to another. I have
already said that it is the laying aside of an
overcoat, but that after it the man still finds
himself clad in his ordinary housecoat, the
spiritual body. But though, because it is so much
finer, St Paul gave it the name of "spiritual," it
is still a body, and therefore, material, even
though the matter of which it is composed be very
much finer than ordinarily known to us. The
physical body serves the spirit as a means of
communication with the physical world. Without
that body as an instrument, he would be unable to
communicate with that world, to impress himself
upon it or to receive impressions from it. We find
that the spiritual body serves exactly the same
purpose; it acts as an intermediary for the spirit
with the higher and "spiritual" world. But this
spiritual world is not something vague, faraway
and unattainable; it is simply a higher part of
the world which we now inhabit. I am not for a
moment denying that there are other worlds, far
higher and more remote; I am saying only that what
is commonly called death has nothing to do with
those, and that it is merely a transference from
one stage or condition to another in this world
with which we are all familiar. It may be said
that the man who makes this change becomes
invisible to you; but if you think of it, you will
see that the man has always been invisible to you,
that what you have been in the habit of seeing is
only the body which he inhabited. Now he inhabits
another and a finer body, which is beyond your
ordinary sight, but not necessarily by any means
beyond your reach.
The first point
to realize is that those whom we call the dead
have not left us. We have been brought up in a
complex belief which implies that every death is a
separate and marvelous miracle, that when the soul
leaves the body it somehow vanishes into a heaven
beyond the stars, no suggestion being made as to
the mechanical means of transit over the appalling
spaces involved. Nature's processes are assuredly
wonderful, and often to us incomprehensible, but
they never fly in the face of reason and common
sense. When you take off your overcoat in the
hall, you do not suddenly vanish to some distant
mountain-top; you are standing just where you were
before, though you may present a different outward
appearance. Precisely in the same way, when a man
puts off his physical body he remains exactly
where he was before. It is true that you no longer
see him, but the reason for this is not that he
has gone away, but that the body which he is now
wearing is not visible to your physical eyes.
You may be aware
that our eyes respond only to a very small
proportion of the vibrations which exist in
nature, and consequently the only substances which
we can see are those which happen to reflect these
particular undulations. The sight of your
"spiritual body" is equally a matter of response
to undulations, but they are of quite a different
order, coming from a much finer type of matter.
All this, if it interests you, you may find worked
out in detail in Theosophical literature.
For the moment
all which concerns us is that by means of your
physical body you can see and touch the physical
world only, while by means of the "spiritual body"
you can see and touch the things of the spiritual
world. And remember that this is in no sense
another world, but simply a more refined part of
this world. Once more I say, there are other
worlds, but we are not concerned with them now.
The man of whom you think as departed is in
reality with you still. When you stand side by
side, you in the physical body and he in the
"spiritual" vehicle, you are unconscious of his
presence because you cannot see him; but when you
leave your physical body in sleep you stand side
by side with him in full and perfect
consciousness, and your union with him is in every
way as full as it used to be. So during sleep you
are happy with him whom you love; it is only
during waking hours that you feel the separation.
Unfortunately for
most of us, there is a break between the physical
consciousness and the consciousness of the
spiritual body, so that although in the latter we
can perfectly remember the former, many of us find
it impossible to bring through into waking life
the memory of what the soul does when it is away
from the body in sleep. If this memory were
perfect, for us there would indeed be no death.
Some men have already attained this continued
consciousness, and all may attain it by degrees,
for it is part of the natural unfolding of the
powers of the soul. In many, such unfolding had
already begun, and so fragments of memory come
through, but there is a tendency to stamp them as
only dreams and therefore valueless, a tendency
specially prevalent among those who have made no
study of dreams and do not understand what they
really are. But while as yet only a few possess
full sight and full memory, there are many who
have been able to feel the presence of their loved
ones, even though they cannot see; and there are
others who though they have no definite memory,
wake from slumber with a sense of peace and
blessedness which is the result of what has
happened in that higher world.
Remember always
that this is the lower world and that is the
higher, and that the greater in this case includes
the less. In that consciousness you remember
perfectly what has happened in this, because as
you pass from this to that in falling asleep, you
are casting off a hindrance, the encumbrance of
the lower body; but when you come back to this
lower life, you again assume that burden, and in
assuming it you cloud the higher faculties and so
lapse into forgetfulness. So it follows that if
you have some piece of news that you wish to give
to a departed friend, you have only to formulate
it clearly in your mind before falling asleep,
with the resolution that you will tell him of it,
and you are quite certain to do so as soon as you
meet him . Sometimes you may wish to consult him
on some point, and here the break between the two
forms of consciousness usually prevents you from
bringing back a clear answer. Yet even if you
cannot bring back a definite recollection, you
will often wake with a strong impression as to his
wish or his decision; and you may usually take it
that such an impression is correct. At the same
time, you should consult him as little as
possible, for, as we shall see later, it is
distinctly undesirable that the dead should be
troubled in their higher world with affairs that
belong to the department of life from which they
have been freed.
This brings us to
the consideration of the life which the dead are
leading. In it there are many and great
variations, but at least it is almost always
happier than the earth life. As an old scripture
puts it:: "The souls of the righteous are in the
hand of God, and there shall no torment touch
them. In the sight of the universe they seem to
die, and their departure is taken for misery, and
their going from us to be utter destruction; but
they are in peace." We must disabuse ourselves of
antiquated theories; the dead man does not leap
suddenly into an impossible hell, nor does he fall
into a still more impossible hell. There is indeed
no hell in the old wicked sense of the word; and
there is no hell anywhere in any sense except such
as a man makes for himself. Try to understand
clearly that death makes no change in the man; he
does not suddenly become a great saint or angel,
nor is he suddenly endowed with all the wisdom of
the ages. He is just the same man after his death
as he was the day before it, with the same
emotions, the same dispositions, the same
intellectual development. The only difference is
that he has lost the physical body.
Try to think
exactly what that means. It means absolute freedom
from the possibility of pain or fatigue; freedom
also from all irksome duties; entire liberty
(probably for the first time in his life) to do
exactly what he likes. In the physical life man is
constantly under constraint; unless he is one of a
small minority who have independent means he is
ever under the necessity of working in order to
obtain money, money which he must have in order to
buy food and clothing and shelter for himself and
for those who are dependent upon him. In a few
rare instances, such as those of the artist and
the musician, the man's work is a joy to him, but
in most cases it is a form of labour to which he
would certainly not devote himself unless he were
compelled.
In this spiritual
world no money is necessary, food and shelter are
no longer needed, for its glory and its beauty are
free to all its inhabitants without money and
without price. In its rarefied matter, in the
spiritual body, he can move hither and thither as
he will. If he loves art he may spend the whole of
his time in the contemplation of the masterpieces
of all the greatest of men; if he be a musician,
he may pass from one to the other of the world's
chiefest orchestras, or may spend his time in
listening to the most celebrated performers.
Whatever has been his delight on earth, his hobby,
as we should say, he has now the fullest liberty
to devote himself to it entirely and to follow it
out to the utmost, provided only that its
enjoyment is that of the intellect or of the
highest emotions, that its gratification does not
necessitate the possession of a physical body.
Thus it will be seen at once that all rational and
decent men are infinitely happier after death than
before it, for they have ample time not only for
pleasure but for really satisfactory progress
along the lines which interest them most.
Are there then
none in that world who are unhappy? Yes, for that
life is necessarily a sequel to this, and the man
is in every respect the same man as he was before
he left his body. If his enjoyments in this world
were low and coarse, he will find himself unable
to gratify his desires. A drunkard will suffer
from unquenchable thirst, having no longer a body
through which it can be assuaged; the glutton will
miss the pleasures of the table; the miser will no
longer find gold for his gathering. The man who
has yielded himself during earth-life to unworthy
passions will find them gnawing at his vitals. The
sensualist still palpitates with cravings that can
never now be satisfied; the jealous man is still
torn by his jealousy, all the more than he can no
longer interfere with the action of its object.
Such people as these unquestionably do suffer, but
only such as these, only those whose proclivities
and passions have been coarse and physical in
their nature. And even they have their fate
absolutely in their own hands. They have but to
conquer these inclinations, and they are at once
free from the sufferings which such longings
entail. Remember always that there is no such
thing as punishment; there is only the natural
result of a definite cause; so that you have only
to remove the cause and the effect ceases, not
always immediately, but as soon as the energy of
the cause is exhausted.
There are many
people who have avoided these more glaring vices,
yet have lived what may be called worldly lives,
caring principally for society and its
conventions, and thinking only of enjoying
themselves. Such people as these have no active
suffering in the spiritual world, but they often
find it dull, they find time hanging heavy on
their hands. They can foregather with others of
their type, but they usually find them somewhat
monotonous, now that there is no longer any
competition in dress or in general ostentation,
while the better and cleverer people whom they
desire to reach are customarily otherwise engaged
and therefore somewhat inaccessible to them. But
any man who has rational intellectual or artistic
interests will find himself quite infinitely
happier outside his physical body than in it, and
it must be remembered that it is always possible
for a man to develop in that world a rational
interest if he is wise enough to do so.
The artistic and
intellectual are supremely happy in that new life;
yet even happier still, I think, are those whose
keenest interest has been in their fellow men,
those whose greatest delight has been to help, to
succor, to teach. For though in that world there
is no longer any hunger or thirst or cold, there
are still those who are in sorrow who can be
comforted; those who are in ignorance who can be
taught. Just because in western countries there is
so little knowledge of the world beyond the grave,
we find in that world many who need instruction as
to the possibilities of this new life; and so one
who knows may go about spreading hope and glad
tidings there just as much as here. But remember
always that "there" and "here" are only terms in
deference to our blindness; for that world is
here, close around us all the time, and not for a
moment to be thought of as a distant or difficult
of approach.
Do the dead then
see us? may be asked; do they hear what we say?
Undoubtedly they see us in the sense that they are
always conscious of our presence, that they know
whether we are happy or miserable; but they do not
hear the words we say, nor are they conscious in
detail of our physical actions. A moment's thought
will show us what are the limits of their power to
see. They are inhabiting, what we have called the
"spiritual body," a body which exists in
ourselves, and is, as far as appearance goes, an
exact duplicate of the physical body; but while we
are awake our consciousness is focused exclusively
in the latter. We have already said that just as
only physical matter appeals to the physical body,
so only the matter of the spiritual world is
discernible by that higher body. Therefore, what
the dead man can see of us is only our spiritual
body, which, however, he has no difficulty in
recognizing. When we are what we call asleep, our
consciousness is using that vehicle, and so to the
dead man we are awake; but when we transfer our
consciousness to the physical body, it seems to
the dead man that we fall asleep, because though
he still sees us, we are no longer paying any
attention to him or able to communicate with him.
When a living friend falls asleep we are quite
aware of his presence, but for the moment we
cannot communicate with him. Precisely similar is
the condition of the living man (while he is
awake) in the eyes of the dead. Because we cannot
usually remember in our waking consciousness what
we have seen during sleep, we are under the
delusion that we have lost our dead; but they are
never under the delusion that they have lost us,
because they can see us all the time. To them the
only difference is that we are with them during
the night and away from them during the day;
whereas when they were on earth with us, exactly
the reverse was the case.
Now this which,
following St. Paul, we have been calling the
"spiritual body" (it is more usually spoken of as
the astral body) is especially the vehicle of our
feelings and emotions; it is therefore these
feelings and emotions of ours which show
themselves most clearly to the eyes of the dead.
If we are joyous, they instantly observe it, but
they do not necessarily know the reason of the
joy; if sadness comes over us, they at once
realize it and share it, even though they may not
know why we are sad. All this, of course, is
during our waking hours; when we are asleep, they
converse with us as of yore on earth. Here in our
physical life we can dissemble our feelings; in
that higher world this is impossible, for they
show themselves instantly in visible change. Since
so many of our thoughts are connected with our
feelings, most of these also are readily obvious
in that world; but anything in the nature of
abstract thought is still hidden.
You still say
that all this has little in common with the heaven
and hell of which we are taught in our infancy;
yet it is the fact that this is the reality which
lay behind these myths. Truly there is no hell;
yet it will be seen that the drunkard or the
sensualist may have prepared for himself something
which is no bad imitation thereof. Only it is not
everlasting; it endures only until his desires
have worn themselves out. He can at any moment put
a period to it, if he is strong enough and wise
enough to dominate those earthly cravings and to
raise himself entirely above them. This is the
truth underlying the Catholic doctrine of
purgatory, the idea that after death the evil
qualities have to be burned out of a man by a
certain amount of suffering before he is capable
of enjoying the bliss of heaven.
There is a second
and higher stage of the life after death which
does correspond very closely to a rational
conception of heaven. That higher level is
attained when all lower or selfish longings have
absolutely disappeared; then the man passes into a
condition of religious ecstasy or of higher
intellectual activity, according to the line along
which his energy has flowed out during his
earth-life. That is for him a period of the most
supreme bliss, a period of far greater
comprehension, or nearer approach to reality. But
this joy comes to all, not only to the specially
pious.
It must by no
means be regarded as a reward, but once more only
as the inevitable result of the character evolved
in earth life. If a man is full of high and
unselfish affection or devotion, if he is
splendidly developed intellectually or
artistically, the inevitable result of such
development will be this enjoyment of which we are
speaking. Be it remembered that all these are but
stages of one life, and that just as a man's
behaviour during his youth makes for him to a
large extent the conditions of his middle life and
old age, so a man's behaviour during his
earth-life determines his condition during these
after-states. Is this state of bliss eternal? You
ask. No, for, as I have said, it is the result of
the earth life, and a finite cause can never
produce an infinite result.
The life of man
is far longer and far greater than you have
supposed. The Spark which has come forth from God
must return to Him, and we are as yet far from
that perfection of Divinity. All life is evolving,
for evolution is God's law; and man grows slowly
and steadily along with the rest. What is commonly
called man's life is in reality only one day of
his true and longer life. Just as in this ordinary
life man rises each morning, puts on his clothes,
and goes forth to do his daily work,and then when
night descends he lays aside those clothes and
takes his rest, and then again on the following
morning rises afresh to take up his work at the
point where he left it, just so when the man comes
into physical life he puts upon him the vesture of
the physical body, and when his work-time is over
he lays aside that vesture again in what you call
death, and passes into the more restful condition
which I have described; and when that rest is over
he puts upon himself once more the garment of the
body and goes forth yet again to begin a new day
of physical life, taking up his evolution at the
point where he left it. And this long life of his
lasts until he attains that goal of divinity which
God means him to attain.
All this may well
be new to you, and because it is new it may seem
strange and grotesque. Yet all that I have said is
capable of proof, and has been tested many times
over; but if you wish to read all this you must
study the literature on the subject, for in a
short pamphlet with a special purpose, such as
this, I can merely state the facts, and not
attempt to adduce the proofs.
You may perhaps
ask whether the dead are not disturbed by anxiety
for those whom they have left behind. Sometimes
that does happen, and such anxiety delays their
progress; so we should, as far as possible, avoid
giving any occasion for it. The dead man should be
utterly free from all thought of the life which he
has left, so that he may devote himself entirely
to the new existence upon which he has entered.
Those therefore who have in the past depended upon
his advice should now endeavour to think for
themselves, lest by still mentally depending upon
him they should strengthen his ties with the world
from which he has for the moment turned. So it is
always an especially good deed to take care of
children, whom a dead man leaves behind him, for
in that way one not only benefits the children,
but also relieves the departed parent from anxiety
and helps him on his upward path.
If the dead man
has during life been taught foolish and
blasphemous religious doctrines, he sometimes
suffers from anxiety with regard to his own future
fate. Fortunately there are in the spiritual world
many who make it their business to find men who
are under such a delusion as this, and to set them
free from it by a rational explanation of facts.
Not only are there dead men who do this, but there
are also many living men who devote their time
during the sleep of the body each night to the
service of the dead, endeavouring to relieve
people from nervousness or suffering by explaining
to them the truth in all its beauty. All suffering
comes from ignorance; dispel the ignorance and the
suffering is gone.
One of the
saddest cases of apparent loss is when a child
passes away from this physical world and its
parents are left to watch its empty place, to miss
its loving prattle. What then happens to children
in this strange new spiritual world? Of all those
who enter it, they are perhaps the happiest and
the most entirely and immediately at home.
Remember that they do not lose the parents, the
brothers, the sisters, the playmates whom they
love; it is simply that they have them to play
with during what we call the night instead of the
day; so that they have no feeling of loss or
separation. During our day they are never left
alone, for, as here children gather together and
play together, play in Elysian fields full of rare
delights. We know how a child here enjoys "making
believe," pretending to be this character or that
in history, playing the principal part in all
sorts of wonderful fairy stories or tales of
adventure. In the finer matter of that higher
world, thoughts take to themselves visible form,
and so the child who imagines himself a certain
hero promptly takes on temporarily the actual
appearance of that hero. If he wishes for an
enchanted castle, his thought can build that
enchanted castle. If he desires an army to
command, all at once that army is there. And so
among the dead the hosts of children are always
full of joy, indeed, often even riotously happy.
And those other
children of different disposition, those whose
thoughts turn more naturally to religious matters,
they also never fail to find that for which they
long. For the angels and the saints of old exist,
they are not mere pious fancies; and those who
need them, those who believe in them are surely
drawn to them, also find them kinder and more
glorious than ever fancy dreamed. There are those
who would find God Himself, God in material form;
yet even they are not disappointed, for from the
gentlest and the kindest teachers they learn that
all forms are God's forms, for He is everywhere,
and those who would serve and help even the lowest
of His creatures are truly serving and helping
Him. Children love to be useful; they love to help
and comfort; a wide field for such helping and
comfort lies before them among the ignorant in the
higher world, and as they move through its
glorious fields on their errands of mercy and of
love they learn the truth of the beautiful old
teaching: "Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of
the least of these My brethren ye had done it unto
Me."
And the tiny
babies, those who are as yet too young to play?
Have no fear for them, for many a dead mother
waits eagerly to clasp them to her breast, to
receive them and to love them as though they were
her own. Usually such little ones rest in the
spiritual world but a short time, and then return
to earth once more, often to the very same father
and mother. About these the mediaeval monk
invented an especially cruel horror, in the
suggestion that the un-baptized baby was lost to
its friends forever. Baptism is a true sacrament,
and not without its uses; but let no one be so
unscientific as to imagine that the omission of an
outward form like this can affect the working of
Gods's eternal laws, or change Him from a God of
love into a pitiless tyrant.
We have spoken so
far only of the possibility of reaching the dead
by rising to their level during sleep, which is
the normal and natural way. There is also, of
course, the abnormal and unnatural method of
spiritualism, whereby for a moment the dead put on
again the veil of flesh, and so become once more
visible to our physical eyes. Students of
occultism do not recommend this method, partly
because it often holds back the dead in his
evolution, and partly because there is so much
uncertainty about it and so great a possibility of
deception and personation. The subject is far too
large to take up in a pamphlet such as this, but I
have dealt with it in a book called The Other Side
of Death. There also will be found some account of
instances in which the dead spontaneously return
to this lower world and manifest themselves in
various ways, generally because they want us to do
something for them. In all such cases it is best
to try and find out, as speedily as may be, what
they require, and fulfil their wishes, if
possible, so that their minds may be at rest.
If you have been
able to assimilate what I have already said, you
will now understand that, however natural it may
be for us to feel sorrow at the death of our
relatives, that sorrow is an error and an evil,
and we ought to overcome it. There is no need to
sorrow for them, for they have passed into a far
wider and happier life. If we sorrow for our own
fancied separation from them, we are in the first
place weeping over an illusion, for in truth they
are not separated from us; and secondly, we are
acting selfishly, because we are thinking more of
our own apparent loss than of their great and real
gain. We must strive to be utterly unselfish, as
indeed all love should be. We must think of them
and not of ourselves, not of what we wish or we
feel, but solely of what is best for them and most
helpful to their progress.
If we mourn, if
we yield to gloom and depression, we throw out
from ourselves a heavy cloud which darkens the sky
for them. Their very affection for us, their very
sympathy for us, lay them open to this direful
influence. We can use the power which that
affection gives us to help them instead of
hindering them, if we only will, but to do that
requires courage and sacrifice. We must forget
ourselves utterly in our earnest and loving desire
to be of the greatest possible assistance to our
dead. Every thought, every feeling of ours
influences them; let us then take care that there
shall be no thought which is not broad and
helpful, ennobling and purifying.
If it is probable
that they may be feeling some anxiety about us,
let us be persistently cheerful, that we may
assure them that they have no need to feel
troubled on our account. If, during physical life,
they have been without detailed and accurate
information as to the life after death, let us
endeavour at once to assimilate such information
ourselves, and to pass it on in our nightly
conversations with them. Since our thoughts and
feelings are so readily mirrored in theirs, let us
see to it that those thoughts and feelings are
always elevating and encouraging. "If ye know
these things, blessed are ye if ye do them."
Try to comprehend
the unity of all. There is one God, and all are
one in Him. If we can bring home to ourselves the
unity of that eternal Love, there will be no more
sorrow for us; for we shall realize, not for
ourselves alone but for those whom we love, that
whether we live or die, we are the Lord's and that
in Him we live and move and have our being,
whether it be in this world or in the world to
come. The attitude of mourning is a fruitless
attitude, an ignorant attitude. The more we know,
the more fully we shall trust, for we shall feel
with utter certainty that we and our dead are
alike in the hands of perfect Power and perfect
Wisdom directed by perfect Love.
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